Some people think life begins at 40. Wisdom and a vast reservoir of experience are your weapons in life now. While some women have settled into long-term relationships, others find themselves back on the market or finally ready for a commitment. But finding that special someone is easier said than done. Don’t worry, girlfriends! We’ve got a few good resources you can use to read up on to learn how to make a relationship last and what the subtle differences are about dating after you hit that 40 mark.
1. Love, Lust and Faking it
By Jenny McCarthy
New York Times bestselling author Jenny McCarthy returns to her comic roots in this candid, wise, and witty look at women, men, sex, romance, heartbreak, love, and how (not) to fake it. McCarthy talks about finding first love and dealing with heartbreak; the importance of playing doctor and other nice and naughty fantasies; becoming a Playboy Miss October; why women are master manipulators; the virtues of sex with the lights off; the power of a “loving no,” and so much more.
2. The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage By Michele Weiner-Davis
In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. Free from “therapy-speak,” and easy to understand and follow, this book should benefit readers who have the strength and desire to try to save a floundering marriage.
3. Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women over 40
By Gloria MacDonald
This book is for the 20 million single women over 40 in Canada and the United States who are looking for a loving relationship with a good man, have recently come out of a long term relationship or marriage, either through divorce, separation, or bereavement and think they might want to start dating again, but feel they might be a bit rusty. If you’re not in your 20’s any longer, and neither are the men you are dating, then you need to understand how the laws of the jungle are different now, why they are different, and how you can find your way to a new wonderful relationship with a fantastic man.
4. Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love . . . Or Never Call Back
By Rachel Greenwald
In this dating guide for women getting nowhere fast, professional matchmaker and author, Rachel Greenwald takes the intriguing step of interviewing a thousand men who decided not to follow up on a first date. To her credit, she doesn’t advise readers to change who they are, but how they present themselves, emphasizing the importance of first impressions and refusing to heap blame on either men or women. Detailed descriptions and checklists will help readers determine what disagreeable stereotype you may be projecting (“The Boss Lady,” “The Bait & Switcher,” “The Park Avenue Princess”) and how to remedy it.
5. Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love
By Diana Kirschner
Finding true love is possible in just 90 days. Renowned clinical psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, uses the latest research, clinical and personal experience to show you how. Dr. Diana knows the questions single women everywhere face: “Why am I attracted to the wrong kind of guys?” “Why is he just not that into me?” “Why can’t I seem to find the One?” She also knows the unconscious mistakes that women make over and over again in love-regardless of age, work success, or the type of men they are dating.
6. Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love
By Diana Kirschner
A unique guide to deepen any love relationship, to move from casual to committed, and ultimately to go from the anxiety of not knowing where things are going…to the security of fulfilling and lasting love. Learn to create irresistible attraction and an atmosphere that men love to be around and keep that crazy-in-love feeling going, no matter how long you’ve been together.
7. Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am: The Real Cougar Woman Handbook
By Linda Franklin
Linda Franklin is the founder of The Real Cougar Woman, a company dedicated to educating women over 40 on how to be strong, sexy and independent. In her book she states that every woman realizes aging is inevitable but how you age is always your choice Every woman has a real cougar inside just waiting to be released—a woman who is strong, confident, independent, sexy and proud to be over 40!
8. How To Make Someone Love You Forever In 90 Minutes Or Less
By Nicholas Boothman, Nicholas Boothman
Drawing on his expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Boothman charts a three-step plan that will help anyone find the love of his or her life. Step one: come to know who you are through honest self-assessment. Step two: working seriously on interpersonal skills. How to be charming, not alarming and how to cast a wide social net. Step three is about accelerating the kind of intimacy that leads to love, a solid romantic foundation to convert the first magic 90 minutes into a lifetime of love and commitment.
9. What Was I Thinking?: 58 Bad Boyfriend Stories
By Barbara Davilman & Liz Dubelman
Learn from the mistakes of others. What Was I Thinking? is a collection of first-person essays describing the moment in a relationship when, no matter how much you think it should work, or want it to work, or need it to work, you get that it’s not going to work. Included in this collection are more than 50 classic bad boyfriend stories, from writers including: Carrie Fisher, Claudia Handler, Bonnie Bruckheimer, Maira Kalman, Cindy Chupack, Rachel Resnick, Mimi Pond, Francesca Lia Block, Nicole Hollander
10. 101 Things I Learned AFTER My Divorce
By Tomi Tuel
Anyone going through a divorce or continuing to make sense of the aftermath of a divorce will find this book highly empowering and enlightening. Tomi Tuel shows remarkable courage by sharing her valuable life lessons learned in the emotionally painful, chaotic trenches that all divorced individuals must struggle through.