When Love Isn’t Enough

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It’s a sad fact that more than 50% of all marriages nowadays end in divorce. It is a statistic that has been steadily rising over the past several hundred years.

It wasn’t that long ago that both women and men could almost always find a way to reconcile their differences and learn to stay together no matter what the causes of divorce may have been.

The causes of divorce vary, and they can be extremely personal for the couple.

Divorce is nothing to be ashamed of, but it is important to make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons.

Irreconcilable Differences

One common cause of divorce is what is officially referred to as irreconcilable differences . The reason this particular cause is so common is because it really covers alot of ground, while at the same time leaving the actual reasons wide open  . Oftentimes, this reason is sited by couples who married young and no longer have anything in common .

Other times, it refers to a disagreement on a fundamental issue, such as whether or not to have children . It could just mean that the couple argues too much. Irreconcilable differences is a controversial term when it comes to being a cause of divorce, some would say it makes getting divorce to easy, it’s up to the couple to make sure that the term is not abused and used lightly.

Domestic Violence as a Cause of Divorce

A major cause of divorce, domestic violence, that has only in the past fifty years risen to the surface. Many women used to hide this and remain in a bad marriage simply because it was too shameful to mention in public.

Women have a lot more support nowadays and feel more confident coming forward and claiming domestic violence as a cause of divorce, and that’s a very positive step in the right direction.

Cheater, Cheater, Pumpkin Eater

Another cause of divorce is when one of the spouses has an affair. This is devastating for the marriage, and while many couples are able to get through such a situation with counseling and communication, for other couples, an affair is the last straw. Cheating is viewed as being the ultimate betrayal – something that many marriages just can’t take.

For Better Or For Worse

No matter what the actual cause of the divorce is, the truth of the matter is that it is a necessary evil in todays society, something that is needed in times of trouble. For some couples that just can’t bear to be in the same room as the person they are married to, divorce becomes the solution and levels the playing field, sometimes even bringing them closer together again.

There are also those that just want the divorce so badly, they never want to see the other person again. But if such tensions must persist, it is better that they do so outside of a marriage rather than within one.